I wish my wife would show more interest in things I like to do, even though they might not be her “thing.”
B
17
I would like my wife to work with me on projects.
D
I wish my wife would get more excited about gifts from me.
C
18
I love it when my wife compliments my appearance.
A
I wish my wife wouldn’t jump in to criticize my ideas rather than hearing me out.
B
19
I can’t help but touch my wife when she’s close by.
E
I wish my wife would now and then run errands for me when I’m busy.
D
20
At times, when I’m feeling swamped at work, I wish my wife would see that and do more around the house.
D
If my wife gives me a gift, I would like her to put thought into choosing it.
C
21
I wish my wife would give me her full attention when we’re talking, and not look away or check her phone.
B
Keeping the house clean is an important act of service.
D
22
I look forward to seeing what my wife gives me for my birthday.
C
I know my wife loves me, but I wish she would tell me more often what I mean to her.
A
23
It would be nice if when my wife takes a trip, she would bring me a little gift.
C
I wish my wife would sometime surprise me by helping me with a chore I dislike.
D
24
It bothers me when my wife interrupts me.
B
I never get tired of receiving gifts from my wife.
C
25
I want my wife to help me out when I’m tired.
D
I wish my wife was as enthusiastic about going places as I am.
B
26
I love having sex with my wife.
E
I like it when my wife goes to the store and picks up little things she knows I’ll like.
C
27
I wish my wife would be more encouraging.
A
I love to watch movies with my wife.
B
28
If I received a gift from my wife, I would feel appreciated.
C
I just can’t keep my hands off my wife.
E
29
I know my wife is busy, but sometimes I would love it if she would help me with things I have to do.
D
I would really like it if my wife sometimes said, “I appreciate you.”
A
30
I love embracing my wife after we’ve been apart for a while.
E
I want to hear my wife say she believes in me.
A
A: _____ B: _____ C: _____ D: _____ E: _____
A = Words of Affirmation; B = Quality Time; C = Receiving Gifts;
D = Acts of Service; E = Physical Touch
INTERPRETING AND USING YOUR PROFILE SCORE
Your primary love language is the one that received the highest score. You are “bilingual” and have two primary love languages if point totals are equal for any two love languages. If your second highest scoring love language is close in score but not equal to your primary love language, then this simply means that both expressions of love are important to you. The highest possible score for any one love language is 12.
You may have scored certain ones of the love languages more highly than others, but do not dismiss those other languages as insignificant. Your wife may express love in those ways, and it will be helpful to you to understand this about her.
In the same way, it will benefit your wife to know your love language and express her affection for you in ways that you interpret as love. Every time you or your wife speak each other’s language, you score emotional points with one another. Of course, this isn’t a game with a scorecard! The payoff of speaking each other’s love language is a greater sense of connection. This translates into better communication, increased understanding, and, ultimately, improved romance.
If your wife has not already done so, encourage her to take the 5 Love Languages Profile for Wives, which is available on page 209. Discuss your respective love languages, and use this insight to improve your marriage!
An interactive version of this Personal Profile is also available at www.5lovelanguages.com
THE 5 LOVE LANGUAGES?
THE 5 LOVE LANGUAGES
Profile for Wives