2. Sheena S. Iyengar and Mark R. Lepper, “When Choice Is Demotivating: Can One Desire Too Much of a Good Thing?” Journal of Personality and Social Psychology 79, no. 6 (2000): 995.
3. On the age of first marriage by state, see Population Reference Bureau, “Median Age at First Marriage for Women (5-Year ACS),” http://www.prb.org/DataFinder/Topic/Rankings.aspx?ind=133. On the rising divorce rate in small towns and rural areas, see Sabrina Tavernise and Robert Gebeloff, “Once Rare in Rural America, Divorce Is Changing the Face of Its Families,” New York Times, March 23, 2011.
4. Donald G. Dutton and Arthur P. Aron, “Some Evidence for Heightened Sexual Attraction Under Conditions of High Anxiety,” Journal of Personality and Social Psychology 30, no. 4 (1974): 510.
5. Arthur Aron, Christina C. Norman, Elaine N. Aron, Colin McKenna, and Richard E. Heyman, “Couples’ Shared Participation in Novel and Arousing Activities and Experienced Relationship Quality,” Journal of Personality and Social Psychology 78, no. 2 (2000): 273.
6. Paul W. Eastwick and Lucy L. Hunt, “Relational Mate Value: Consensus and Uniqueness in Romantic Evaluations,” Journal of Personality and Social Psychology 106, no. 5 (2014): 728–51.
7. Paul W. Eastwick and Lucy L. Hunt, “So You’re Not Desirable,” New York Times, May 16, 2014.
Chapter 5: International Investigations of Love
1. Lindsey Galloway, “Living In: The World’s Best Cities for Dating,” BBC.com, June 16, 2014.
2. Abigail Haworth, “Why Have Young People in Japan Stopped Having Sex?” Guardian, October 20, 2013.
3. National Institute on Population and Social Security Research, “The Fourteenth Japanese National Fertility Survey,” 2010.
4. An English-language summary of these findings can be found at “30% of Single Japanese Men Have Never Dated a Woman,” Japan Crush (blog), April 3, 2013.
5. Roland Buerk, “Japan Singletons Hit Record High,” BBC.com, November 28, 2011.
6. If you can read Japanese, see http://www.stat.go.jp/data/kokusei/2005/sokuhou/01.htm.
7. “Survey Finds Growing Number of Couples Turned Off by Sex,” Asahi Shimbun, December 21, 2012.
8. Central Intelligence Agency, “The World Factbook,” 2014, available at https://www.cia.gov/library/publications/the-world-factbook/rankorder/2054rank.html.
9. Linda Sieg, “Population Woes Crowd Japan,” Japan Times, June 21, 2014.
10. A rundown of the Japanese government’s marriage-support initiatives can be found in Keiko Ujikane and Kyoko Shimodo, “Abe Funds Japan’s Last-Chance Saloon to Arrest Drop in Births,” Bloomberg, March 19, 2014.
11. Kalman Applbaum, “Marriage with the Proper Stranger: Arranged Marriage in Metropolitan Japan,” Ethnology 34, no. 1 (1995): 37–51. Also see David Millward, “Arranged Marriages Make Comeback in Japan,” Telegraph, April 16, 2012.
12. Masami Ito, “Marriage Ever-Changing Institution,” Japan Times, November 3, 2009.
13. Alexandra Harney, “The Herbivore’s Dilemma,” Slate, June 15, 2009.
14. National Institute on Population and Social Security Research, “Fourteenth Japanese National Fertility Survey,” October-November 2011.
15. There’s a totally fascinating video from Vice on the Japanese love industry that’s available at www.vice.com/the-vice-guide-to-travel/the-japanese-love-industry.
16. If you’re interested in hostess clubs, there’s a whole anthropology book about them. Anne Allison, Nightwork: Sexuality, Pleasure, and Corporate Masculinity in a Tokyo Hostess Club (Chicago: University of Chicago Press, 1994).
17. The data on men’s use of prostitution is assembled in “Percentage of Men (by Country) Who Paid for Sex at Least Once: The Johns Chart,” ProCon.org, January 6, 2011. It can be found at http://prostitution.procon.org/view.resource.php?resourceID=004119.
18. The mayor’s statements and the 60 percent figure can be found in Tara Brady, “‘Women Who Say They Don’t Like Cat-Calls Are Lying’: Buenos Aires Mayor Sparks Furious Backlash,” Daily Mail, April 29, 2014.
Chapter 6: Old Issues, New Formats: Sexting, Cheating, Snooping, and Breaking Up
1. These statistics come from a few sources: The data on sending and receiving sexts are in Hanna Rosin, “Why Kids Sext,” Atlantic, November 2014. The data on iPhone users versus Android users, on Tuesday-morning sexting, and on people in relationships sexting come from the Match.com survey we draw on throughout the book.
2. Jenna Wortham, “Everybody Sexts,” Matter, November 11, 2014.
3. Rosin, “Why Kids Sext.”
4. Oliver Tree, “‘Stop Starin at My Weapon’: Hilarious New Details of Weiner’s Sordid Facebook ‘Affair’ with Blackjack Dealer Are Revealed,” Daily Mail, June 8, 2011, http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2000386/Anthony-Weiner-Facebook-affair-blackjack-dealer-Lisa-Weiss-revealed.html.
5. The 2011 figure is reported in Sheelah Kolhatkar, “Cheating, Incorporated,” Bloomberg Businessweek, February 10, 2011. The 2014 figure is on Ashley Madison’s website. See https://www.ashleymadison.com/blog/about-us/.