All the Dirty Parts
Daniel Handler
—The opening of Rilke’s “Third Duino Elegy” is from Gary Miranda’s elegant and illuminating translations, published in a highly recommended volume by Tavern Books, and appears courtesy the translator. The author changed one word, with apologies to same.
—Further thanks are due to Lisa Brown, Charlotte Sheedy, Nancy Miller, Susan Rich, Oscar Hijuelos, Michelle Tea, Andrew Sean Greer, Rebecca Stead, Ayelet Waldman, Dana Reinhardt, and some other early readers (hello, girls) who wish to remain anonymous.
—This is a work of fiction.
Let me put it this way: this is how much I think about sex. Draw a number line, with zero is, you never think about sex and ten is, it’s all you think about, and while you are drawing the line, I am thinking about sex. Brush up against me in the hall at school, any girl I am thinking of, the way she smells walking behind her up the ugly staircase, trying to keep it together while my whole body rattles like a squirrel in a tin can. To couple up with them, to capture their whole bodies under a blanket with enough light to see the pleasure of what we are doing. Marinated with it, the snap and the sigh of longing to be inside all of her. It’s a story that keeps telling itself to me, my own crackling need in this world lit only by girls who might kiss me, like a flower, like a flytrap, the delicious sex we would have if we weren’t in the idiotic marathon of going to class. Oh, good. Calculus. This will clear everything up.
Waking up in the morning, miserable with bad weather. School in front of me, the whole day, like a wall I’m going to bang my head against. Think of the girls, I tell myself, like cookies in the oven to lure me out of bed. Think of how pretty they are. Don’t you want to see them, Cole? Come on, brush your teeth.
Through a rip in a girl’s jeans I see a little light fuzz on her knee. And then the next day it’s smooth and gone. Naked, shaving her legs. They shave their legs naked, right? Sitting there in jeans and naked in my head. The razor moving up up her legs. Tell us why your grades have suffered.
Let me put it this way: let’s say you had an arm. Let’s say it was an arm, instead, that got stiff and stuck out suddenly and unsightly, and calming it down felt amazing. Tell me you would not think, not wonder what the big deal was to ask people if they could just take a minute and take care of that arm for you.
I look around the cafeteria and think, line us all up, from the person who had an orgasm most recently, to who had one the longest time ago. Now line us up again, from happiest to that girl clenching up alone in tears in a furious sweater. It’s the same lineup, isn’t it?
Wish I could explain, how these things feel like seduction, even though I know they aren’t. If you rumple my hair and leave your hand for a minute on my neck. If you sit and put one of your legs up on something even if you’re in jeans. If you lick something off your finger. If you put on lipstick. If you rub your own bare arm. If you bend down for any reason to pick something up off the ground. If you talk to me.
—Give me the details.
Alec always says this. My best friend, waiting on the screen when I get home from a date and am back up in my room taking my good shirt off, a pending always request.
—What, like what?
—Like always.
—You want to know what movie we saw?
—Shut up. You know.
—Tell me.
—The dirty parts. The sex is the details I mean.
So that’s what I type. There are love stories galore, and we all know them. This isn’t that. The story I’m typing is all the dirty parts.
Because I’m on an adventure. I’m not happy ever after with my first girl. You don’t see a movie and say, well now I’ve seen a movie. You see different ones. You try them and keep trying. Because so much of the rest is bullshit nothing. There’s friends, laughing on the weekends, nice as they are to be around. Not enough. Your teachers gesture toward the future but they’re on the payroll. Cross-country, the coach pushing us further for no reason but sweat and maybe a trophy to get dusty on the bookshelf. The best songs become a thing you’re tired of, parents snap at you and the muddle of the rest of it, all of us unable to be everything to each other all the time every day. But this rushing flesh together is something I know. Girl biting my shoulder with two fingers inside her and my thumb smooth-smooth-moving in a quiet pulse, I get this. If it could all move this way, all these bodies I see, looking me in my eye and moving your hand up and down until I come, if we could all come together always like this, we would chase no different joy.
It doesn’t matter how many girls I’ve slept with. The number doesn’t matter, and it doesn’t matter that some of them, for months, were more like lovers, a bigger deal, and that some of them, for a night if by a night we mean three hours, it was more like a snack. It’s not the number that matters. What matters is that, to me, it doesn’t feel like enough.
Eleven, is the number.
It took me forever to figure: she’s pressing against me, there’s no way she can’t feel me hard against her, and she’s not pulling away. But she’s not saying anything either, she’s not rolling back to take something off. We’re just here, for hours it feels like, this seesaw of wondering, trying not to ruin it, what’s going to happen next.
She won’t say, do you want to? This is something you have to say. I learned, trial and too many errors, the girls, almost all of them all the time, need to be given the idea. They’re already thinking about it, but they need the idea advanced. Let me put it to you this way.
It sounds pushy, and I know it does. But it’s only pushy inside me sometimes. It’s not like I’m violent with it. I’ve never forced a girl. While we were having sex they all, definitely, wanted it to happen.
Afterwards, though, they felt bad about it sometimes.
—Give me the details.
What details can I give another guy? Describing it isn’t anything like it is. You can grab your own arm, anything soft. It’s not like your hands on her breasts, shirt hiked up quick and bra unclasped off someplace. What could I tell Alec about it?
Everything, it turns out.
—Hold it like a candy bar.
We are both giggling. She wipes her hand, sweaty, on the sheet and clutches me again.
—Ow. No. Like a candy bar.
—You know, it’s not really helpful because I don’t go around holding candy bars all the time. Or do this. Show me.
—OK, like—
—Oh. OK. This is like a candy bar? OK. And now, what next do I do?
—Now eat it.
I am pulsing, still laughing, close. It will happen quick and surprise her.