The Hands-Off Manager: How to Mentor People and Allow Them to Be Successful

Life will not bring you what you want. Life will bring you what you believe. Wanting it actually pushes it away!

And the reason it does is that wanting it creates a belief that you don’t have it, and that maybe you can’t get it. It creates inner lack and a sense of scarcity regarding that subject.

So how can you stop wanting something you really want?

Instead of wanting it, you can shift your thinking to, “I’ll create it.” Because you now understand that the true creative process begins on the inside, not the outside. You comprehend that the creative potential that exists within you comes through your thinking, which arises through what’s in you. It’s an inside job.



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Man must evolve for all human conflict a method which rejects revenge, aggression, and retaliation. The foundation of such a method is love.

—Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.



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One of the best examples of using all three worlds as opposed to just one, is contained in a comparison of the lives of Malcolm X and Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

Malcolm X tried to erase already-existing racism. His whole approach was that racism is bad, it’s wrong, and we need to get rid of it. He was trying, through his justifiable anger, to alter the already-existing physical world. So he wasn’t in three worlds, he was in one. He kept trying to chop off the tip of the iceberg.

Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr., approached the issue differently. He went inside himself to the level of spirit. He was a minister who knew how to meditate and pray for inspiration. Finally, when it arrived, he said to the world, “I have a dream.”

Dr. King’s dream had black people and white people going to the same schools and the same restaurants, and being treated equally by the law. That was his dream. He didn’t talk about racism in his dream, because racism was history to him. And in his dream racism would no longer be relevant.

So now we celebrate a holiday in his honor. There isn’t a holiday for Malcolm X. Despite his courage and brilliance, Malcom X has had very little lasting influence. His time on earth did more to fuel the anger of his followers than it did to create anything new.

But because of King, a lot is different now; he found his leverage at the level of a dream, at the level of an idea, instead of the level of outer historical manifestation. He was accessing spirit, not physical form. King exemplifies someone who goes into his inner world of the spiritual to adjust something in the outer world—as opposed to the way most of us handle life: complaining about what’s already out there.

If you look at the people who have truly influenced the world, they were always inner-idea people. They include such notables as Gandhi; Thomas Edison; Joan of Arc; Martin Luther King, Jr.; Christ; Buddha; and the list goes on. They influenced our thinking, our philosophies, and our beliefs. They shifted the world. They changed the course of history, and they used an understanding of the three worlds to do it.

To realize your full potential, all you have to do is focus on the ingredients. Look inside to change the inner process, and just let the results happen. Let your process produce the results that it will naturally. Soon you will learn to make a difference. You’ll become a person of real influence. You’ll become a person who significantly alters what happens in the physical world as a result of your having been here.

The Declaration of Independence was a document about a new way of being, a new governance. Our Constitution was an idea. Both of these ideas came from inspired people who connected to their potential and utilized all three worlds to bring forth their ideas.

As a result of Enron and other newsworthy corporate transgressions, our government is trying hard to control business and public corporations from the outside. To force them through all sorts of exercises, procedures, documentation, and additional audit processes to keep them from taking advantage of people. But change happens from within. Companies that don’t exploit people have already had the idea not to. They have just adopted the idea that they do not want to take advantage of people. They have become people whose true desire is to do what is best.

We are always trying to fix what’s wrong instead of finding what’s possible. Fixing never really works. If anything, it makes the problem worse. The Resolution Trust Corporation—the U.S. government–owned asset management company mandated to liquidate the assets of insolvent savings and loan companies—often spent more money on legal pursuits and resolving the so-called problems of the institutions than they received from selling all of their assets. This whole governmental “fixing” was a complete disaster. It wasn’t a failure of the institutions as much as it was a failure of government policy. It’s a graphic example of how trying to change a result that’s already occurred isn’t going to change anything.

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