The Reminders

I tell Paige and Joan I’ll meet them back at the house. I walk east until I’m up against the Hudson River, one hand gripping the railing. Below, the dark water sloshes against a concrete foundation.

In my other hand, I hold the two prints: the one for my sister and the copy of the painting Syd and I once owned. I torched the painting and somehow it returned to me. At first it seemed like a stroke of cosmic luck. But soon after, about the time Paige and Joan returned with their enormous bag of kettle corn, I was hit with an overwhelming despair. The forest painting that hung in our house hadn’t been restored. I just had a smaller, cheaper duplicate of the real thing. The same can be said of Joan’s memories of Syd. They might bring me closer to him, but they never truly bring him back.

And it only frustrates me more not to have full command over my experience of the past, the way Joan does. She asked me to share my favorite memory of Syd and I couldn’t do it. Of course, I’ve got memories that stand out. The time he put way too much chili sauce in his pho and started dripping sweat and I couldn’t stop laughing. Or the time we took a road trip out to the Salton Sea and checked into a dank motel where we discovered a suspicious hole in our window the size of a bullet; we held each other extra-tight that night. Or both of us shedding tears at the exact same moment while watching Sigur Rós perform at Hollywood Forever Cemetery. Or the time I had the flu and Syd took the day off from work and sat with me in bed with his laptop while I watched a ten-hour marathon of House Hunters.

I know there are a hundred better memories that I’m forgetting. I wasn’t paying close enough attention when they were happening. I was too busy living, just enjoying our time together, completely unaware that it could all suddenly end. Now it feels like a distant dream.

And on top of that, to suddenly have doubts about Sydney when I never had them before. He lied to me, fine, but why? What was he doing out here? What was he hiding? Or is it still possible that this is all a misunderstanding? I might never know the answers.

I lean over the railing and stare down into the dark water. So tranquil. Sometimes I wonder if total blackness would be easier. When we were newly in love and totally inseparable, we hypothesized about what we’d do if one of us suddenly died.

The other will kill himself, I said.

Deal, he said. Unless, of course, we have a child.

I turn away from the water and start walking. Just moving my body helps to unblock my mind. It’s been so long since I’ve done any kind of exercise.

I pick up my pace, the rhythm of my steps against the pavement creating its own kind of music. A skeleton of some larger composition. I flesh it out with the chords and melody that are foremost in my mind: Joan’s. All that’s missing now are some verse lyrics to go on top.

I think you’ve already sealed my fate.

I sing the brand-new line to myself as I walk along. It feels true, worth keeping. I repeat it over and over like a mantra.

Pretty soon another one comes:

I can’t let you go, can never escape.

I’ve got two lines now. It’s a start.


“Get your guitar,” I say.

Joan hops off the studio couch.

“I guess you were right about me coming to the fair today,” I say, holding a scrap of paper in my hand. “I have some lyrics for the verse.”

She starts playing. I read-sing my handwriting:


Life began when you arrived

What came before was a waste of time

Now I’m wondering where to go

Some answers I’ll never know

I could get up and flee this place

But no one leaves without a trace

I think you’ve already sealed my fate

Can’t let you go, can never escape



I had forgotten how satisfying writing can be. Matching language to cadence. Flipping through the mental thesaurus. Seizing the perfect word, the one that packs meaning and feeling. I forgot how each vowel sings differently, alters tonality and emotion. I forgot how much music can help.

“That’s all I have,” I say.

“I love it,” Joan says.

“That one line is weak. I could get up and flee this place. It’s clunky.”

“Are you saying you don’t want to be here anymore?”

“I’m trying to say that wherever you go, you’re never really gone. It’s kind of like how you see people in your memories. They’re still here somehow. Anyway, I’ll keep working on it.”

“Okay,” Joan says. “For the chorus, you know how you say Keep dwelling on what went wrong, keep reaching for what is gone? What if one time you changed the second line to Keep singing the saddest song? Dad loves it when one chorus is different.”

“Okay. I can do that.”

“Also, I’ve been thinking a lot about a bridge. Wouldn’t it be great to have a song that makes people dance and cry at the same time? One of Dad’s all-time favorite songs is ‘A Day in the Life.’ It starts off really sad and slow and then the bridge gets fast and John sings about waking up and getting ready for the bus and then you totally want to dance.”

“That’s not John. That’s Paul.”

“What do you mean?” Joan says. “It’s John’s song. He read a story in the newspaper and he wrote the song.”

“True, but that’s Paul in the bridge. He wrote the middle part and he’s the one singing. You know, your style is more like Paul’s than John’s. Paul was a master of melody and he was the one coming up with the grand schemes, like Sgt. Pepper’s and all that. That’s you.”

Her eyes narrow, ready to pounce. “Do you know how to talk with a British accent?”

“You takin’ the piss?” I say.

“What?”

“That’s my accent.”

“Oh. Okay. Say ‘John Lennon’ with the same voice.”

“John Lennon.”

“Did you hear it?” Joan says. “When you say it with a British accent, it sounds like you’re saying Joan Lennon.”

“So?”

“I’m just like John! Dad named me Joan Lennon, not Joan McCartney. I’m the walrus!”

I wait for her to sit down. “You know my last name is Winters, right? But my real name is Deifendorf.”

“I saw that on your license. What’s Winters, then?”

“I made it up.”

Plenty of actors invent new monikers. For me, it wasn’t just the fact that my birth name is clumsy and difficult to spell. I discovered I was only able to truly disappear into acting roles once I’d made my past disappear. Of course, it was just an illusion.

“Listen, you can call yourself whatever you want,” I say, “but at the end of the day you’re still you. There’s no way around that.”

She pulls out a loose thread from her pants and ties it around her finger. “What if that’s not true?”

“What do you mean?”

“Well, my friend Wyatt told me I might lose my memory if I fell on my head again in Home Depot. And if I lost my memory, then I wouldn’t be like me anymore. I’d be like everyone else.”

I want to laugh, but it’s clear she’s not joking. “Look, kids tell each other a lot of crazy stuff. I once told my little sister there was a half-bird, half-man creature who lived on our roof, and she was too scared to open her window for weeks.”

She peeks up, cracks a smile. “I wish I had a sister or brother.”

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