As I matured and my personality developed, we began to argue more. He didn’t like me standing up for myself, and I didn’t like him manhandling me and dictating to me every little thing he wanted me to do. The sad part was, it wasn’t even his violence that broke us apart the first time. One of his friends told me he’d seen Jeremy making out with one of the skanky cheerleaders.
I confronted him about it, of course, and after I said something snide and sarcastic—yeah, imagine that—he whirled around with his hand out. He caught me in the cheek and ended up cracking my jaw.
I broke up with him while he drove me to the hospital.
After our split, my friends he’d isolated me away from during our time together were wonderful and returned to me, nursing my wounded ego back to health.
But Jeremy came sobbing back to me—literally. He fell on his knees before me, hugged my legs, and begged me to take him back. Somehow, he managed to convince me the whole broken-jaw thing had been a complete accident. He hadn’t purposely hit me that hard; I’d just been standing too close when he’d swung around. And he insisted his friend had lied about the other girl.
Stupid me, I’d believed him.
After two months of being apart, we got back together.
For a while, he was careful not to be too controlling, and I tried to not branch out away from him more than he could stand. But…a person can’t help who they are. I needed my me-space; he needed to oversee every little thing I did. I broke up with him again during my senior year.
I was very amicable about it. Really. I sat him down and kept my voice calm when I told him we were two totally different kinds of people, and we just didn’t mesh well together. I think the part he didn’t like so much was when I told him—as gently as possible—that he needed to seek counseling to help him deal with his anger management problems.
Yeah, he beat me black and blue for that one. The worst damage came to my arm, which shattered with a nice, painful crunch after he pushed me down a flight of stairs.
He was well on his way to becoming a woman beater.
Finally, I learned my lesson. I knew better than to let him anywhere near me. My parents threatened to take out a restraining order against him, but his lawyer father jumped in, saying we didn’t need to take any legal measures yet. He assured us Jeremy would keep his distance. To him, his son was flawless and perfect, and it had been all my fault his perfect child had felt the need to act out.
Since it was all so very disconcerting for me—and my family and his family as well—both our parents tried to keep the situation low-key. As long as it severed my contact with Jeremy, I didn’t care. I just wanted him out of my life.
But Jeremy wasn’t entirely on board. After being with me for two and a half years, he’d grown attached. He actually thought he loved me. So, in his mind, he fought for me.
To me, he turned into a psycho stalker crazy ex-boyfriend who’d break into my room when I wasn’t home and leave me letters and poems and gifts, frantic to get me back.
He was very careful to stay away from me physically. But he harassed me on every other level possible, constantly hanging around outside school whenever classes let out, finding ways to post things on my Facebook page, texting me, emailing me, leaving gross videos on my phone of how he had to pleasure himself since he no longer had me.
I ignored him for the most part, sometimes yelling at him to leave me alone already, but nothing worked. He wouldn’t stop.
Eventually, his control broke. One evening, when my parents were out to dinner and I was home by myself, he snuck into my house to pay me a visit. He had his pocketknife with him—which had seemed more like a collapsible machete at the time.
After he pinned me to the door of my bedroom, he told me in no uncertain terms that if he couldn’t have me, he was going to make sure no one else could either. Then he pressed the blade to my throat.
I’d never been as afraid as I was then, knowing he was fully capable of killing me and realizing he totally planned to do just that. I blocked some of that moment to the darkest, coldest recesses of my mind. I didn’t think I’d ever fully remember everything that happened. But I remember how cold, and pale, and sweaty his face was as he leaned in close until our foreheads touched.
“No one will ever love you the way I do, Reese’s Pieces. And if you won’t let me have you now, I’ll just make sure we’re together for all eternity.”
I had no idea if he’d planned a murder/suicide or what. But I didn’t want to find out. I was also not too clear how I did it, but somehow one of my hands grappled behind me until I found the doorknob. Just as he began to press the knife into my flesh, I opened the door and spun away.
He sliced me the deepest on the back left side. And if I hadn’t been wearing my hair up in a ponytail, he probably would’ve whacked off my beautiful brunette locks too.
My mother contracting food poisoning from the restaurant saved my life. Dad had rushed her home early. They came through the back door to find me screaming and hurtling myself toward them with my psycho stalking ex-boyfriend charging after me, his bloody knife raised and ready to plunge again.