So finely tuned to the sensuous
That nothing
Nothing
Is more beautiful
Than being in a bath
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10-16-13:
I, soaking in the bath, O on the toilet, talking, talking about what he’s been thinking and writing—short personal pieces, for a memoir perhaps. He had brought with him two pillows to sit on and a very large red apple. He opens his mouth wide and takes a gigantic bite. I watch him chewing for quite a while. After he finishes, “Bite me off a piece,” I say. He does so, dislodges the apple from his mouth, and puts the piece in my mouth. We keep talking. I add more hot water. Every other bite, he gives to me.
There is a quiet moment and then, seemingly apropos of nothing, O says: “I am glad to be on planet Earth with you. It would be much lonelier otherwise.”
I reach for his hand and hold it.
“I, too,” I say.
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12-9-13:
On a brief visit to San Francisco: How pretty and clean and uncrowded by comparison with New York—and how small—it seemed.
On Monday night I stopped by my old apartment (now occupied by a friend of a friend named Christian, though I still store things there), a place I had not visited in several years. I felt such a strange flush of sensations—familiarity mixed with forgotten-ness, if that’s a word—something akin to déjà vu.
I tried keeping a conversation going with Christian while at the same time tiptoeing room to room, trying to remember what this place was, what it meant—the life Steve and I had lived here—and recognizing objects and furniture I had left behind in my haste to move to New York: Oh, that was our table, our kitchen table. And that was our lamp—the lamp we bought at Ikea. And there, on the wall, that was my photograph.
I said aloud, surprising myself: “I took that picture.”
Christian nodded, as if he knew this better than I did.
“And this couch—this was mine too.” I didn’t mean to be reclaiming it. I was just recognizing it.
Christian opened the hall closet. All those books! Those were my books (are they mine still?) and those—all the sci-fi—were Steve’s. Part of me just wanted to close the door, but I felt an obligation to keep looking. I went to the other closet next to the door; it was terrible, a jammed, chaotic mess of boxes and files. So much life, so many years, shoved in there, the door closed.
I went to the bedroom. It was tidy and quite empty except for a bed—again: “That was my bed” (is it mine still?). It was a nice bed, the bed I’d bought for myself about a year after he’d died, and for a moment I wanted it, wondered how I could get it to New York, and at the same time, amazed—really very amazed—that I had left it here, just left it. As if I’d committed a crime. As if I’d run for my life. I suppose I had.
I regretted it later (I shouldn’t have said anything), but without thinking I found myself explaining to Christian how Steve had died—had died in that room. Christian was sweet, gentle, kind-faced. He’s Mormon. Very young. Blond and tall, handsome. When I had come in, he was drinking a glass of milk. He’ll probably have nightmares now. He could not be more different from me, yet there he was, somehow inhabiting the life I had led. Was I his age when I moved in? I don’t remember.
I looked at the full-length mirror on the hall closet door, where at night, after Steve died, I used to watch myself dancing, dancing in place for song after song after song, very stoned, the music loud so I didn’t think any bad thoughts. I could feel it in my body still.
We went to the garage; Christian wanted to know what was mine and what wasn’t, in case he wanted to get rid of things, make room for his own. There wasn’t a lot there—a drafting table, an old wicker chair with the wicker broken through, shelving, a broken Xerox machine. It was all mine (was it mine still?).
I didn’t hesitate. “You can get rid of it all.”
I returned two days later when Christian was at work: I had to deal with some of my stuff before leaving. It felt not just sad but terrible, to be there alone, not only because of Steve’s absence but also knowing that Jim and Vicki were not upstairs, nor Conrad downstairs, nor Robin and his wife down the hall, nor Jeffie or Elena on the third floor. Everyone had moved—or died.
I threw away books and left a box full in the lobby for neighbors to take. I threw out Steve’s remaining clothes—clothes I couldn’t part with at the end, clothes that reminded me so much of him—his boxers, his gym shorts, his flannel shirt. But now? What would I do with them? I didn’t want to imagine other people wearing them.