Around the circle we went. Sharon wished people would stop reminding her that she was still young enough to have another baby. “Maybe I don’t feel like having another baby. I already did it twice. It’s not exactly a day at the spa.”
I realized how eager I was to get to Tina, the one whose idea it was to adjust the night’s prompt. She was hugging her shins to her chest, chin on her knees, observing these angry women with obvious pleasure. At her turn, she didn’t adjust her position. Her chin kept scraping the tops of her jeans as she stared dreamily at the art on the wall and spoke in a serene voice. “I’m with Sharon a little. I wish people would stop telling me it’s time to move on. It’s the way they say it that I wish would stop, really. Almost like… congratulatory. It reminds me of the time I lost a lot of weight, and even the doctor was like, Good job, Tina, but enough is enough now. You don’t want to take it too far. But he was smiling. He approved. The first year after Ed died, I didn’t date. I didn’t put on lipstick. I didn’t show any interest in anyone. People were so damn proud of me. Look at Tina, who is so devastated by Ed’s death that she’s gotten ugly.” Tina paused so some of the women could laugh at the hilarious suggestion that she could ever be considered ugly. Tina frequently made references to how beautiful she was, but always in a way that suggested it was a defect, the way some women did when they’d gained weight. They were aware there was a problem, and they wanted you to know they were working to overcome it.
“Now we’re coming up on the second anniversary, and people are starting to say this to me,” Tina continued. “It’s time to move on. It’s the same way the doctor spoke to me. Like I’ve done a really pure job at grieving. And I wish they would stop, because it hasn’t felt like a job or like work at all, really. I have no interest in replacing Ed. I never want to be married again.”
“You don’t want children, then?” someone asked, and maybe it was just me, but I detected a note of envy, or at least longing.
“The more I understand, psychoanalytically, about my own life, the clearer I am about what its true purpose is. I can’t say for sure, because I’m not a mother myself, but all of you mean as much to me as I think a child would. Helping other women view their lives in a liberated way, so that they can make choices that make them happy instead of worrying about making all the people around them happy, that fulfills me.”
There was a long, poignant silence, and I wondered if everyone else was sitting there as ablaze with awe and yearning as I was. I couldn’t imagine a greater satisfaction than knowing you were doing exactly what you were put on this earth to do. I didn’t know what that thing was for me, only that I was fairly certain it had nothing to do with the life I would have had if I’d stayed married to CJ.
* * *
That night, when my mother picked me up, I was cool to her. The invitation for my father’s garden-naming ceremony was sitting in the passenger seat, as though my parents had been driving around together, discussing my problems and how to fix them. My mother would have been telling him that they’d tried it his way—the nice way—and look where it had gotten me.
“Your friend was quite nosy,” she said to me, breaking what was starting to feel like a standoff. Usually, I was the one to do it—I couldn’t stand her being upset with me—and it felt almost too easy to turn the tables on her. I couldn’t believe I hadn’t tried it before. “Martina, right?”
“She goes by Tina.”
“What happened to her? Why does she go?”
For a moment, I was tempted not to tell her. I didn’t think I could stomach her reaction. “Her husband died.”
My mother did that thing I’d known she would do, a sort of tsk-sigh, scolding the cruel web of the universe while resigning herself to being trapped in its sticky silk net. We hit the pothole that the city council had voted to fill in last winter, and I held on to the empty bowl. The women had gobbled up the meatballs within minutes and then demanded to know my secret. I’d swelled with pride when I told them. Yogurt? they’d repeated back, as if they never would have guessed.
“Well.” My mother sniffed. “She’s a looker. Knows it too. That part’s not attractive, but men don’t care about that.” My mother, the exact opposite of a looker, cleared her throat of some persistent winter phlegm.
“She offered to drive me to the sessions from now on,” I blurted out before I lost my nerve. “She lives in Clyde Hill, and we’re on her way.”
“Don’t inconvenience the woman, Ruth. Doesn’t she have children?”
“No. She’s studying to become a therapist.”
“Ah,” my mother said, her voice full of understanding. When I looked over at her, she was nodding, placated.
“What?”
“Well, therapists need clients, don’t they? That’s how they earn their living.”
The implication was a blazing backhand across the face. I thought about what Tina had said at the meeting—how helping other women was her true purpose in life, what fulfilled her. What a fool I was. Tina didn’t want to be my friend; she wanted to shrink me. My mother was just sensitive enough not to say the rest of it out loud, the part we were both thinking as we pulled into the driveway I’d salted before we left.
I needed her too.
PAMELA
Jacksonville, Florida
Day 6
On a map, it is an all-but-straight line east from Tallahassee to Jacksonville. In real time, the drive felt just as flat. Sometimes the pines looked like Christmas trees, sometimes they were skinny and bare, only their tops decorous, strangely reminiscent of the palm trees in the next county over. The day of Denise’s funeral, they flew by outside the window of Brian’s Bronco, densely plotted in their own segregated communities.
Neil Young was on the eight-track. “Old Man,” breaking my heart while I copied the law enforcement report, word for word, onto the proof-of-crime section of the victims’ compensation claim form. It had taken fourteen phone calls and three Just popping by! trips to the Sheriff’s Department to get my hands on a copy, and if it wasn’t postmarked by midnight, I’d miss the deadline.
My pen lurched across the page. I looked up to find Brian crossing the wide, empty lanes to catch the exit coming up.
“I gotta take a leak,” he said.
I sighed. “Can’t you hold it?” I’d promised Mrs. Andora I’d be at her door at nine a.m. sharp to help clean and set up the house for the funeral reception.
“No, actually!” Brian said with a laugh as he parked in the ranger’s lot of the Wildlife Management Area. He glanced around; there was one other car parked a few spaces away from us. “You okay by yourself a minute?”
I had to go too, but I could hold it. “Hurry,” I told him, and turned to the next page of the report. I knew I could get a lot more written when we weren’t moving.
Section nine was the referral source information. I put down Brian’s dad. Under relationship, I paused. He would be my father-in-law, someday not too soon. The plan was to get engaged right after graduation so that we could live in the newly married dorms at Shorebird Law come fall. For the time being, I wrote Family friend.
“One section left!” I told Brian when he climbed into the car.
“Cutting it close,” he commented.
“They should really give you more time with these,” I said.
“It’s sort of like cashing a check, though,” Brian said, merging back onto the highway. “If you wait too long, the person hasn’t budgeted for the amount to come out. Without a deadline, they can’t properly manage the fund.”
Fair enough.
“?‘Section ten,’?” I read out loud. “?‘Type of victim compensation requested.’?” I scanned the options. Disability. Wage loss. Property damage. Sexual battery relocation assistance. Sexual battery recompense assistance.