“Even all the James McMurtrys?” I say, hoping that he’ll balk or at least look upset. Ben has his favorite bands, and I have mine, but as a couple, James McMurtry is our number one. Maybe it’s because we discovered and fell in love with his music together. I see Ben’s chest rise slightly as he inhales. He exhales and looks at me. I hope he’s thinking of last summer when we flew to Austin to see James perform at the Continental Club. I hope he’s thinking of how we drank too many beers, our arms around each other, as we soaked up James’s wrenching lyrics.
“Sure. Even James,” he says sadly, as I make a mental note to leave just one CD behind, as if it were only an oversight. I pulled a similar stunt when I broke up with my college boyfriend, Paul. There were a lot of reasons for our demise, but among them was that we weren’t geographically compatible. I wanted to live in New York and he wanted to live anywhere but . I held out hope that he’d change his mind and strategized ways to increase those odds. So when I gathered up all of his stuff that had accrued in my apartment over the prior year, I stuck one random Uno card in the crate because Paul and I played Uno together all the time, and had kept a running score into the triple digits. The card was a red “reverse” which I thought was somehow symbolic. I hoped that he’d find it and have a moment of intense regret for letting me go, a desire to “reverse” his life, leave Denver and move with me to New York. Maybe he would even tape that card to his mirror, look at it every morning when he shaved, thinking of me and what could have been.
I try to imagine what Ben’s expression will be when he comes across one of our McMurtry CDs. I picture him sliding the disc in the stereo, listening to one of our songs, and cursing himself for picking a baby over me.
“Claudia?” Ben says, interrupting my thoughts. “What are you thinking?” His voice is soft.
“You know,” I say, shaking my head. I feel another enormous stab of sadness. I have to work hard to fight back tears.
“Yeah. I know,” Ben says. “This sucks.”
I nod and look away, over to a couple sitting near us, seemingly on a first date. They were seated just after we were and I noticed that he pulled her chair out for her. They are young and eager, all smiles and perfect table manners. They are off to a good start, happy and hopeful.
I nod toward their table and say, “Check out those two. First date?”
Ben turns slightly in his chair, studies them for a second, and says, “Yeah. Second tops. I bet they haven’t even kissed yet.”
“Maybe tonight,” I say.
“Yeah. Maybe.”
“I wish I could skip ahead and see their ending,” I say sarcastically.
Ben gives me a look and says, “You always were a cynic.”
I say, “Go figure.”
“Maybe they’ll live happily ever after,” Ben says.
“Yeah. With two point two children.”
“Or at least one,” Ben says.
I let him have the last word and the check when it mercifully comes.
* * *
seven
There is more than a sliver of me that wonders if I’m making a mistake as I let Ben slip away from me for good. I tell myself that second-guessing just comes with the territory. Whenever you make a big decision in life, at least any decision where you have a viable alternative, there is an inevitable uneasy aftermath. Anxiety is merely a sign that you’re taking something seriously.
In this sense, divorcing Ben conjures up a similar set of emotions that I had when I married Ben. I knew I was doing the right thing then, too, but couldn’t escape the occasional worry that kept me up in the middle of the night even after I took a few swigs of NyQuil. In the days before our wedding, I knew that my love for Ben was the most real thing I had ever known, but I still fretted that I was setting myself up for disappointment. I remember looking at Ben while he slept one night and fearing that I would someday let him down. Or that he would let me down. That things, somehow, wouldn’t turn out well for us, and that I would look back and say, “How could I have been so stupid? How could I have not seen this coming?” Which of course is exactly what is happening.
And now, as I watch Ben slip away from me, I have the nagging feeling that I will someday look back at this fork in the road and point to it as the biggest mistake of my life.
So given my fragile state, I am very nervous about being around my outspoken family. I tell them nothing and put off seeing them for several weeks, until the day of my niece Zoe’s sixth-birthday party when I can put it off no longer.